Thursday, 19 January 2017

Under the Weather


Thank God it's Friday tomorrow. I am so ready for it to be the weekend and I think the kids are too. This week has been busy and we've all been feeling a bit run down and under the weather with colds and aching limbs. We are all ready for a rest.

Husband picked the kids up when he had finished work from their after-school club. We pay for the session and not by the hour so I came home and got on with the housework and the kids got to spend another hour there enjoying the games and playing with their friends from school. Of course, when they arrived home, they said a quick hello and then ran upstairs to their electronics. At least they are in the same room playing them!

365 Project 2017 - Day 19

Wednesday, 18 January 2017

A Mid-Week Treat


To celebrate Husband's birthday, we decided to order a Chinese takeaway for our dinner. It was such a lovely treat and was probably even more delicious than normal because it's mid-week and not Friday night. My favourite Chinese dish is beef satay with boiled rice. It was so good!

We seem to be coming down with colds which doesn't bode well for our weekend plans. On Friday I'm off out with my work colleagues to let our hair down and enjoy a meal and a few drinks (!) together. On Saturday, the kids are off to their Gran's for a sleepover and Husband and I are off for an overnight stay in a beautiful hotel. We've got massages booked and we'll have dinner there too. I can't wait; I just hope we're feeling better.

365 Project 2017 - Day 18

Do You Dislike Your Child's Friends...?

Apparently you are not alone! I have to say though, my children have excellent taste in friends. Charlotte has a few close friends whom are all really lovely whilst Zachary has a great group of kids around him. They have been close since they started school and can see them being friends for life. 

As responsible adults, we like to think we’re above the politics of the playground that our children may bring home with them. But here’s the thing: we aren’t, and that’s kind of “official”, no matter what we might think!

A fascinating new study reveals that very few of us can prevent our basic instincts, whereby the protection and care of our children is paramount, from sneaking up to the surface and clouding our otherwise objective viewpoint.

Most mums will know the feeling of developing a bit of a dislike for one of our children’s friends, perhaps based on meeting the child in question and/or from listening to our own children’s comments about what the child said or did etc. So if you do feel this way, you’re not alone and it’s perfectly natural. According to the research provided by Voucherbox, a staggering 40% of parents surveyed actively dislike at least one of their child(ren)’s friends. Meanwhile, around 33% of parents surveyed also said they actively dislike the parents of their children’s friends as well.



The reasons for this dislike are many and varied but include things like bad behaviour of the child(ren) in question, the fact that these children are perceived to be spoilt, and/or that they are manipulative or bullies. What’s more, the males of the species are slightly more intolerant than we women are of our offspring’s friends' parents – and they’re also more likely to have to voice their “concerns” in this regard when it comes to advising the kids. That’s right; the Dads are more forward than we Mums are in encouraging our children to seek friendships elsewhere.

And finally, the survey reveals that over a third of us won’t even invite the children we don’t particularly like to our own child’s playdates as we try to discourage further friendship forming.

So those feelings you may have been having about your children’s friends, and that you may have been feeling you really ought to rise above, are far more common than you may have been thinking. But this should come as no surprise; after all, we’re only sophisticated apes at the end of the day and no matter how sophisticated we may be in other areas - when it comes to our own children, our more primeval instincts tend to kick in. It’s a little like the old “fight or flight” type response that explains a lot of human behaviours; where our children are concerned, the bond of love is so strong that we are sometimes blind to the imperfections in our own children and we tend to be overly protective.

Maybe we shouldn’t be beating ourselves up about this stuff too much, but at the same time, maybe we should try and reflect in our more rational moments that we aren’t always being too rational here. Learning to cope with difficult people is a life skill that we all need to develop. And if your child is choosing difficult people at an early age, maybe it’s not necessarily all bad. Instead, it’s positive for development. If they can see for themselves the fundamental flaws in others, and learn to cope in the way they see fit with your help and guidance – this is surely better for their longer term development than the avoidance we may naturally try to impose on them?



Either way, please stop worrying – you certainly aren’t alone in your most natural of feelings here.

Look Who is 40!


Today is Husband's 40th birthday.

He's an amazing husband, father and person. He would do anything for his family and friends, dropping everything to help someone out.

He works really hard, even when he's feeling under the weather or in his own words "crabbit".

He is funny (sometimes), caring and gives the best cuddles in the world (aside from Zachary and Charlotte!)

He is not happy about turning 40 but I think he has gotten better with age.

And how much does Charlotte look like her Dad?!

Happy birthday Baby, love you lots, always and forever xxxo

Tuesday, 17 January 2017

I'm no Pussy Cat


As the alarm went off this morning, I seriously contemplated rolling over and going back to sleep. I always find it harder to get up the later we get into the working week but it seems to be starting sooner this week.

Husband very kindly made me a cup of tea and brought it upstairs so I could "wake up" at my own pace. The cat then joined me. He made himself comfy, the lucky git, and looked at me as if to say, "well, are you getting up then?" How I'd love the be a cat and lay about all day.

The kids left school and headed to their after-school club. They really enjoyed themselves and didn't want to leave which is such a good feeling, especially when we're paying a small fortune for it. Charlotte played with the horses and then the babies and Zachary beat someone in a game of chess. We got home, had our pasta dinner and they were in bed for 7:30. Exhausted.

As tiring as these working weeks are, they go so fast and I can't believe we're almost at the 20th of the month. New Year doesn't seem like it was that long ago! At this rate, our holidays will be here before we know it.

365 Project 2017 - Day 17

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